Tomorrow is a big day. Tomorrow, the Hubs and I will celebrate our 10 year wedding anniversary. We got married young, the summer between our Junior and Senior year in college. We were both 21. We felt it fitting to mark our 10 year anniversary with this decision.
The past 10 years have been nothing short of exciting and to say we’ve both grown immensely would be an understatment. We’ve had opportunities to do some amazing things, we’ve taken some great vacations and we’ve been through some serious rough patches, albeit very recently. The majority of the past 10 years has been nothing short of amazing. I don’t really have much to complain about. But there’s been something missing. There’s always been something missing. Tonight, the sun will set on the life we’ve known for the better part of those 10 years. The sun will go down, for good, on a seemingly predictable and safe future. The sun will rise tomorrow marking not only a new day, but a whole new life for us. One that we both believe has been in the works for a very long time, but only began to reveal itself to us over the last 18 months or so. The Hubs will be resigning his current position which he’s held for close to 4 years. He’ll be leaving the employer he’s been with for almost 8 years. It’s a HUGE step. He has not and will not be accepting a position with another employer. He will be delving in, full force, going balls to the wall to make his small company a success. Tomorrow marks the dawn of a new era. I will continue my role as a stay at home mom, raising our 2 girls until the time is right for me to launch a small business of my own. We won’t have any income coming in (until he starts making money on his own) and will be living off money that we have saved over the past 3 years. Money that we couldn’t have saved if it hadn’t been for Dave Ramsey’s class, Financial Peace University, almost 3 years ago which I was firmly against. I’m so very thankful for my husband’s gentle but firm stance that we needed to attend this class; he was aware of my sensitivity to the subject of money, but never relented. It has changed the course of our lives. We didn’t know what we were saving for, we were simply…saving. There have been several big-ticket items we’ve wanted to purchase recently yet neither of us could pull the trigger. I’m thankful for gut feelings and discretion and wisdom. We’ve created and agreed to a budget that will allow this savings to carry us for many months and give him ample time to ramp-up his business. If, at the end of the agreed upon time, the business is not performing as we desire, he will then seek full-time employment elsewhere. In the mean-time he’ll be self-employed.
There is, of course, a certain amount of nervousness to all of this. I keep telling myself there would be something wrong with the person that WASN’T nervous. If you say it out loud, what we’re doing, it sounds crazy. Truthfully though, we’ve looked at this every way possible. Multiple times. This is not a decision we’ve come to easily nor has the decision been made light-heartedly. We have also sought the counsel of many people we respect in our lives. We recognize the many sacrifices it will require. If we want to make a go at this, this is how it has to be. All in. No questions. One job and only one job. He can’t make it work on a part-time basis. Not with his travel schedule and the demands of his current position. Not to mention he’s been increasingly unhappy in his current position and while he didn’t do anything wrong (it’s on permanent record with the company that he’s in no way violating company policy) by starting a business on the side, his current manager was less than thrilled when she learned about it. There are also many signs his current division is in trouble. All signs point to this being the right call. While the seed for entrepreneurship was planted long, long ago, we started to see its growth while on vacation last summer, after the twins died. If it hadn’t been for them dying, I’m about 99% sure we wouldn’t be where we are now.
So this is my last post as the wife of a traveling salesman. As the stay at home mom while my husband brings home the bacon. Going forward, it will be a joint effort to make this ship sail. Granted, he’ll do most of the heavy lifting, but I’m sure I’ll be needed somewhere. And before too long, I’m hoping to start my own thing that’s been in the works. I know this isn’t true, but this really feels like my first experience with true faith. I don’t know what’s on the other side…the unknown has always been scary to me. But there’s something nudging me forward, something telling me to press on and to stay the course, and amidst all the nervousness, I recognize a peaceful feeling telling me this is the right move. Although it’s often shrouded in the fear. I’ve accepted the fact that even though this is the right move, it may not turn out how we want, but that’s not for us to decide. All we can do is act and work our tails off. To the life I’d grown too comfortable in yet provided me with so much to be thankful for I’d like to say, “Thanks. It’s been an awesome ride. I’ve had ups. I’ve had downs. I’ve had more ups than I’ve had downs. I’ve made lots of mistakes, some of which were fun and I’ve grown into a woman who would be unrecognizable to the young bride I was 10 years ago. I’m thankful, for it all, but I’m ready to move on. To see what’s on the other side. I’m ready to close the curtain and see what happens next.”
I’ll see you all on the other side.